Dear Lyndsie,
This is a letter from your older self. Lots of things will change. The future will be beautiful. So many of your dreams are going to come true. You will be doing so many cool things. There will be some sad times, but nothing you can’t handle. And being goth/scene/emo isn’t a phase!
The number one thing I wish I had understood and wish all young girls could understand. The attention of boys DOES NOT MATTER! The man you are supposed to be with will come into your life exactly when it is supposed to happen! Let things happen, but don’t go out of your way to seek attention from boys. Your worth does not come from male attention. Your worth comes from the fact that you are you. The world needs the person that you are! So give the world a damn amazing person!
Educate yourself, experience life, set goals, achieve them. Be someone who loves themselves. Explore your talents. See new places. Learn anything and everything you can. Read all the books you can. Do what makes you happy, it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t make anyone else happy. Do all the things.
Always be true to yourself. Don’t let anyone, and I mean ANYONE tell you how to wear your hair, what clothes to wear, or how much or how much little makeup you wear. I let the opinion of others deter me from coloring my hair in vivid fashion colors up until the time I was 29. And after the fact, I will tell you I have never felt more beautiful or more myself until I colored my hair the ways I’d always wanted. If wearing all black everything, gives you the confidence of the swamp witch you dream of being, do yo’ thang boo, but if wearing lace and bubble gum pink makes you feel like a boss ass bitch, do that!
If you want to be something or do something that others may not appreciate or see the value in, ignore THEM! In the end THEY aren’t going to give you the fulfillment that your dreams do. Even if someone you love wants something “better” for you, if it’s your dream, you’ll end up eventually quitting whatever you settled for and move on to something else, even if it’s not on to your dream, you’ll eventually keep moving onto other things. Why not bite the bullet and have the “feelings” up front and get it over with and once you accomplish your goals and dreams the satisfaction will feel so much better than the approval. And more often than not once whoever wanted better for you sees how happy and successful you are they will see it’s better for you this way, and they will set their old feelings aside and be happy and proud of you.
You don’t have to settle! YOU DO YOU!
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